If you’re having trouble reading the headlines these days, I understand how you feel. It’s tough to take in all the news about the consequences of climate change, gun violence, the campaign against reproductive rights, or the systematic dismantling of our democratic system without feeling a little hopeless. The result for many of us is to disengage. We disconnect from the world around us, … [Read more...] about A ‘Pull from the Future, Not a Push from the Past’
How Does ‘Gray Divorce’ Affect Adult Children?
In her seminal book Home Will Never be the Same Again, marriage, family, and child therapist Carol Hughes talks about the emotional impact of divorce on a group that is often left out of the discussion: adult children. They are often excluded from the traditional narrative since they are not legally relevant to discussions about child support and custody for minor children in divorce. In … [Read more...] about How Does ‘Gray Divorce’ Affect Adult Children?
Talking with Your Children About Collaborative Divorce
As bad as divorce can be for the couple going through it, that’s nothing compared to how it can negatively impact their children. At least the couple has seen it coming for a while and has had some time to be prepared emotionally. Even if they’ve seen how unhappy their parents are, children may feel blindsided by the news of a divorce. There’s no way to completely shield your children … [Read more...] about Talking with Your Children About Collaborative Divorce
How Long Should You Grieve After a Divorce?
When it comes to grief, how long is too long? After debate that lasted well over a decade, the American Psychiatric Association’s diagnostic manual, known as the DSM-5, recently added a controversial new diagnosis: prolonged grief disorder. The definition is anguish over the death of a loved one lasting more than a year. But according to experts like clinical psychologist Zakieh Bigio Klurfeld, … [Read more...] about How Long Should You Grieve After a Divorce?
How Emotional Agility Can Help You Navigate Divorce
When someone tells me that they are considering divorce, I often suggest that their first call shouldn’t be to a lawyer. Rather, I say that investing in a relationship with a skillful mental health professional is usually the place to start, unless there is active domestic violence in the relationship. That’s because divorce is 80% emotional, 10% financial and 10% legal. Sometimes … [Read more...] about How Emotional Agility Can Help You Navigate Divorce
Taking Care of Yourself on Valentine’s Day
When a marriage is falling apart, Valentine's Day can be a lonely time. If you’ve already split up, or even if you’re in the middle of the process, it can be a challenging day. It’s hard not to be reminded that the love of your life is no longer the love of your life. I totally get it. I’ve been there, too. We tend to create traditions around holidays like Valentine's Day, or we have … [Read more...] about Taking Care of Yourself on Valentine’s Day
How Much Does Divorce Cost American Companies?
We all know that divorce is an expensive proposition. According to one recent study, the average divorce can cost upward of $15,000 when you factor in attorney fees, court filing fees, and other common costs. And if you have disputes over finances, or disagreements around custody, that figure will be much, much higher. But did you know that divorces are costly for … [Read more...] about How Much Does Divorce Cost American Companies?