We live in a volatile, uncertain and complex time. Advocating for the violent overthrow of an election and interfering in the work of Congress by armed insurrection is a criminal enterprise. Yet, the peaceful transition has occurred. This post does not address ways to engage in meaningful conversations while under duress, such as a hostage negotiation, or when someone is holding a gun to your … [Read more...] about Thoughts on Peaceful Transitions
Yes, Margaret, you can still get divorced in the middle of a global health pandemic. (Reference to Judy Blume’s classic young adult novel, Are You There God? It’s Me, Margaret.) Speaking of God, unless you studied epidemiology or public health, you probably didn’t see this coming. This virus is pulling us all up short, killing friends and family, and disproportionately impacting the lives of … [Read more...] about Divorce in the Time of COVID-19
A lawyer is trained to solve problems. We look for solutions that meet the interests of our clients. All too often, while we are focused on the destination, the resolution, the “win,” many of us miss the opportunities for healing and growth along the way. We fixate on the outcome as opposed to the process. This is where the Collaborative Practice model shines a bright light on the opportunities … [Read more...] about Getting divorced? Now is the time to dream!
The other day the words just came out of my mouth. Emotional safety. What did I mean by that phrase, exactly? I meant being in a space where people could be themselves: vulnerable, imperfect, and capable of expressing their emotions without fear of judgment or interruption. That is my definition of emotional safety. As divorce lawyers, we are all (theoretically) trained to deal with risks and … [Read more...] about Emotional Intelligence – Finding those Spaces Where You can be Vulnerable in Times of Transition
Most of us aren’t taught to be honest communicators. When I recently searched “honesty and why it is so hard?” it brought up a bevy of articles on the psychology of lying. Discussions included: why we do it; can we stop?; should we stop?; when is it justified and when is it not?; is it okay in business?; and, is it ok when everyone else is doing it? I even learned a new word for using truthful … [Read more...] about The case for radical honesty: Is a little white lie a bad thing?