Social scientists and neurobiologists have validated leaders who demonstrate vulnerability and authenticity in the workplace because such leaders promote “human connection”. This in turn promotes trust, and a “culture of forgiveness” that leads to demonstrably greater satisfaction and performance. Couldn’t we apply a bit of that data to our approach to divorce? The Harvard Business Review cited … [Read more...] about Vulnerability is the New Strong
How to Have a Collaborative Divorce
Don’t laugh, and suspend your cynical judgment for just a few minutes. Let’s assume you have been thinking seriously about ending your marriage or long-term relationship, but you are scared because you don’t want the divorce process to ruin you or your children. Despite your feelings of doubt, shame, insecurity, jealousy, anger, grief, or whatever else you may be feeling, you still value … [Read more...] about How to Have a Collaborative Divorce
What you Fear You Attract
What you fear, you attract. What you resist persists. Do you know the Native American story of Rabbit? The ancient story tells the tale of a brave rabbit who was also a fearless warrior. He was walking along a mountain trail and befriended a magical person who used his magic to produce food and water when Rabbit was hungry and thirsty. Rabbit was a bit rude and never thanked his friend for the … [Read more...] about What you Fear You Attract
Antidotes to 4 Negative Myths about Divorce
Myth 1: A divorce means I won’t have to deal with my ex ever again Yeah, it’s not so simple, or easy. Sometimes it might be nice to consider or fantasize that this is true, but if you have children together, it is not an option. Consider the word itself: divorce. Yes, it is the legal dissolution of a marriage, a noun, but it also a verb, synonymous with "disconnection, disassociation, … [Read more...] about Antidotes to 4 Negative Myths about Divorce
How to Have a Peaceful and Compassionate Divorce-Part II
Find Peace through Your Divorce I hope that if you are contemplating a divorce or going through one, that you ultimately find your own compassionate advocate’s voice. That you ultimately find peace despite the fear and chaos that may be brewing in your life around a divorce. It doesn’t matter if it is your own divorce, or the divorce of someone you love. It doesn’t matter if the concept of … [Read more...] about How to Have a Peaceful and Compassionate Divorce-Part II
How to Have a Peaceful and Compassionate Divorce–Part I
Why this blog? Welcome, readers. My intention with this first blog post is to start a conversation about new ways to think about and approach divorce. This includes how to have a peaceful and compassionate divorce, which is possible, if you set your intention and behave accordingly. I’m a divorce lawyer by training and profession. I’ve also been divorced, so I share that personal experience. … [Read more...] about How to Have a Peaceful and Compassionate Divorce–Part I
